Several months ago, Marcy, my acutely perceptive Tarot Reader, spoke of the struggle we each have balancing our analytical, logical side with our intuitive, LOVE-centered side at different times throughout our lives.  This is especially true when we are in the midst of great change.  The masculine aspect of ourselves, associated with action, wants to DO something.  The feminine aspect of ourselves just wants to BE.

The back of Balance- Animus


Marcy used the image of a uniformed guard putting great effort into “protecting” a stone building.  He held a flag and took his job very seriously… to the point of exhaustion… not realizing that this much effort wasn’t really needed.  The guard represents my logical side- some call it the masculine, ego, thought, left brain, or animus.

The front of Balance- anima


At the same time, in this vision, a sleek female cat-burglar was sneaking past him into the building.  She wasn’t gloating but she was definitely amused that she was able to sneak passed him undetected.  Some call her the female, Intuition, spirit, heart, right brain, or anima.

The Illusion

It’s an illusion to think each, acting alone, will be beneficial.  They both need to stop their “game playing”, truly SEE each other, and know that when they unite, they will be able to fulfill their true purpose- provide balance.

Marcy saw the cat-burglar go outside and make the first gesture toward connection.  He wasn’t able to do it; he was too focused on his duty to guard and protect.  The guard didn’t realize that by joining forces with her, it would free them both.

She embraces him and he literally lets his guard down- weeping and awakening at the same time.  The cat-burglar, too, realizes the need for unity to fulfill their symbiotic roles.

Balance: masculine and feminine supporting one another


What is fascinating to me, beyond Marcy’s skill as a Tarot reader, is that this message was already coming to me loud and clear through my creative expression.


Creativity is where I’m most comfortable letting go of expectations and outcomes, allowing my Intuition to guide the process and analysis to follow.  Intuition communicates most clearly through imagery, synchronicity, dreams, and most often my art.


The beings in both my sculpture and my colored pencil drawing depict the positive effect the unity of masculine and feminine energies can have when they are in harmony.

Return of the Bird Tribes

Ken Carey, in his book Return of the Bird Tribes, explains, “In a healthy state, the ego is a secondary component of identity…the Great Spirit is experienced as your primary sense of self….When your ego stops trying to do everything all by itself, and invites eternal spirit into your consciousness, your historical illusion evaporates like mist on a sunny morning.  A polarity reversal takes place in the charge of your human envelope.  The field of consciousness around you changes.  Instead of your ego dominating your sense of identity and blocking your awareness of the Great Spirit, an eternal sense of self awakens within you.  You know yourself as a projection of the Creator of all the stars in the sky.  You know yourself as one of a family of god-beings, sharing God’s Being.  You remember.  Everything is seen differently.  The world is perceived anew through the eyes of a universal awareness.  Your ego becomes your working partner, and you commence the conscious creation of a new human reality.”

Our Outer World Mirrors Our Inner World

Marcy went on to explain that our outer world mirrors our inner world. Relationships with others and our experiences inform us of the times we are living in balance and when we are not.  Balance, for me, feels like greater clarity and flow, bring to mind words like Trust, Allowing, and Surrender.  When the masculine and feminine are out of balance, I feel discord between my heart and throat chakras- the centers for love and communication.  To come back to center, I have to form a harmonious partnership between the rigid, analytical aspect that is most comfortable “DOING” and the intuitive, heart-centered aspect that finds comfort in “BEING”.

Seeking Balance

Seeking balance between Doing and Being, I treat myself with greater compassion, gentleness, and kindness.  In my Tarot reading, Marcy saw the cat-burglar make the first move toward the guard.  By holding him in her arms, she represents taking a LOVE-focused approach.

My intuitive art practice, meditation, connecting to nature, and time for dream-filled sleep entwine these two aspects of my Self.  From this place of unity, I can move forward with greater grace, serenity, confidence, and love.  That’s when I know I’m on the right path.

What do you do to bring balance between DOING and BEING?

How can your Intuition be given space to guide you more often?

When you are still and quiet, what is your heart saying to you?



Tiptoe If You Must But Say YES

Tiptoe if You Must


“Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life. 

Tiptoe if you must, but… TAKE THE NEXT STEP”. Naeem Calloway

Say YES to the life you want to live.

Fear and Yes

As I commit to living the life I dream of living, I admit that “Fear” is a big factor.  Fear can prevent me from taking the next step… or fear of living a smaller, unfulfilled life can actually motivate me, even if only to tiptoe and take a baby step.  Any movement in the right direction, no matter how small, is the next step to take.  Is fear preventing me from living my best life or inspiring me to make changes so that my best life becomes a reality?  That is the million-dollar question!

Saying “No” Leads to Saying “Yes”

This is a hard one for me.  I’m not someone who likes to say “No”.  I don’t like to disappoint people and I like to do what I can to serve.  But saying “Yes” to every opportunity or favor asked gets in the way of saying “yes” to myself.  Of course, I could spread myself thin and try to do it all but that doesn’t bring me any closer to the life I want to live.

I am learning the fine art of saying “No” to what drains me or pulls me further off course from the life I am manifesting.  It takes strength and some discernment.  I may disappoint people along the way.  Would I rather do that or disappoint myself and put my own health, needs, and dreams on the back burner?  This isn’t a selfish choice; this is an empowering, self-honoring choice that leads to greater fulfillment, happiness, and more energy to give others I love.  A short-term “No” clears space for a long-term “Yes”.

YES with Hearts

What if You Aren’t Sure?

What if you aren’t sure whether you are sensing an honest “No” or “Yes”?  Connect to your intuition by trying this…

  1. Get very still and quiet.
  2. Imagine someone is asking you to do something.  Something that is a definite “No” for you.  Something you really don’t want to do.  Imagine it in great detail.
    • Where are you?
    • Who are you with?
    • What is happening?
    • How does the scene play out?
  3. Now, focus on your body.  Where in your body do you feel your response to this obvious “No”?  How does it feel?

Do the same thing with a definite “Yes”.  Imagine that an opportunity arises to do something you’ve wanted to do for a long time.  Something that if it came along, you would respond with an eager “Yes!” without having to stop and think about it.

  1. Where are you?
  2. Who are you with?
  3. How does the scene play out?
  4. Focus again on your body.  Where in your body do you feel your response to this offer?  How does it feel to say “Yes”?
YES with Heart

A “No” Might Have Been a “Yes”

I am aware that a “No” might have been a “Yes” once upon a time.  The relationship that was so wonderful in the beginning has gone from “Yes” to “No”.  The job that aligned with my skills and talents has changed for a variety of reasons; it felt right but doesn’t any longer.

It could be any number of things that were right at the time but aren’t any longer- you’ve grown; you’ve changed; you have new dreams or goals.  Something else is calling to you and you can’t help but listen.

Is the current situation one that can be turned into a “Yes” with some tweaking or is it a “No” that needs released to make room for a “Yes”?

I’ve learned to trust my gut instinct- my intuition.  It has always, without exception, led me in the right direction.

I suffer most when I ignore my intuition and try way too long to turn a “No” situation into a “Yes”.  This was my way of trying to fix things or hope that they will somehow fix themselves- if I ignore them long enough.  Someone told me that if I ignore the whispers of my intuition, I’ll get hit with “a spiritual 2 by 4”.  The Divine will continue to escalate the situation until I pay attention.  Things will get more uncomfortable and more miserable the longer I ignore the wisdom inside that is trying to guide me.

YES with Wings

Questions that Guide Me

There are some questions I can ask to keep myself on the path I choose to travel.

  1. Who am I now?
  2. How do I want others to see me?
  3. What is the “Yes” beckoning me?
  4. What is stopping me from taking a step in the direction that is calling to me?
  5. Am I ready to take a big step or do I need to tiptoe or take a baby step?

In The Summer Day, Mary Oliver asks,

“What is it you plan to do with your ONE wild and precious life?”

I’d love to hear your answer.

My post Saying Yes Leads to the Next Yes offers more insight into how “Yes” can guide and change your life.

Watch Whitney Freya’s inspiring YouTube video for the #YESextravaganza this month.