The Ripple Effect

Every Decision Causes a Ripple Effect

It’s been quite a journey getting here, embarking on a new life that inspires, motivates, and lights me up inside.  Don’t get me wrong, life wasn’t horrible.  In fact, it was good.  But “good” turned out to be “not good enough”.  I had a wake-up call, reminding me that life is very short.  “Hey Suz, is this really the life you want?”  The answer came quickly and truthfully.  No.

I made bold decisions to end a 10-year relationship and walk away from a 20-year career in teaching.  What seemed to take a year and a half from the first thought of these changes to the present, actually took a lifetime of learning and growing.

This morning, I realized with crystal clarity that both decisions had a ripple effect that impacted a lot of people.  Because I just left my job as a teacher (yesterday was the last day of school), I thoughtfully considered each person who was directly affected by this- each student, each family member, and each colleague floated one by one in my awareness.  Wow, that realization carries a lot of responsibility and weight!  (More on that later.)  Because of my choice, many of them had to make choices, too.  And the ripples continue to expand outward.

Decide How I Want to Decide

When it is time to make a decision, I have to decide how I wanted to decide.  Do I…

1. Make a choice based on fear, anxiety, and doubt?

2.  Or… spoiler alert- this is the better option…Make a choice from a place of love, courage, and authenticity?

A Team of Advisors

There are a great many candidates who want to be on my trusted Team of Advisors for decision-making.  Let me introduce you to them.  Perhaps you know some of them, too.

In one group are the naysayers– external and internal.  They think they are helping by keeping you small and “safe”.  They say things like, “You need to find a secure job”, “You can’t make money doing that”, “No one will ever love you like I do”, “You’ll never find anyone else”, “Who are you kidding?”, “You are too old/young/inexperienced/overqualified.”  The external naysayers could be friends, family, or colleagues.  The internal naysayers could be the inner critic, the perfectionist, the good girl/boy, the people-pleaser, or the martyr.  They mean well but guide from a place of fear.

In the other group are the encouragers– external and internal.  They have your best interest at heart, saying things like, “You won’t know until you try”, “You’ve always wanted this, go for it”, “There’s no time like the present”, “You deserve to be happy (loved, appreciated, valued)”, “Follow your heart”, “Trust yourself”, “You have my support”, and “I believe in you”.  The external encouragers could be friends, family, or colleagues.  The internal encouragers are your heart, feelings, intuition (gut instinct), dreams, and your awareness of synchronicities.  They don’t just mean well; they DO well, guiding from a place of love, support, empowerment, and authenticity.

You may have felt two very different sensations in your chest or abdomen as you read those last two paragraphs.  Read them again and heighten your awareness.  Which feels kinder, gentler, and more positive?  The second one, right?

With Choice Comes Responsibility

So back to “the ripple effect”.  With every decision comes the weight and responsibility of impacting others.  As I considered the weight of my most recent decision, I realized that almost everything I do can impact others and, likewise, what others do can impact me.  That’s just part of being interconnected.  It can paralyze us, detering us from ever deciding anything.  But then I asked myself a question that made all the difference.

The Big Question

Am I living my best life from a place of love, courage, and authenticity?

If something is going to ripple out from me energetically, I want it to be positive!  The teacher in me imagines how great it would be if each child grew up feeling encouraged to be themselves and follow their hearts.  We are examples for one another.  I’m constantly inspired by those who have the courage to pursue their dreams, leave unhealthy relationships, take chances, and SOAR!

An acquaintance asked me what would happen if I failed at my business venture.  My response, “I can’t fail.  By having the courage to try, I’ve already succeeded.”

The Universe Will Respond… I Promise

As soon as I released what no longer served and made space for new possibilities, the Universe responded in surprising and magical ways.  There were synchronisitic events, support came from the most unexpected places, clarity came through dreams, and expansive opportunities appeared almost immediately.

Remember when I asked you to reread those two paragraphs?  The feeling you got from the second one is the feeling I get when I listen to my intuition, knowing it is my most trusted advisor and encourager.

What I say to my Self is what I say to you-  Trust your Self.  You already know.  There are encouragers, seen and unseen, just waiting to support you.  You are loved.  Namaste!

 

Come Home to Your Self

The Message I Needed to Hear

Late last spring, I received a one-word message from my intuition, “Home”.   After a busy year of teaching, two consecutive summers of work-related traveling, and the end of a significant relationship, this was a welcome word that I took literally.  I stayed home to create art, take care of my house and pets, and tend my garden.  To keep this story short, what I got for my effort was bare skin covered with ant bites and a bee sting on my lip that caused significant swelling.  “I stayed home for this?!”, I complained out loud.  And just as clear as that one word message I received in the spring, I heard, “Come home to your Self.”  Actually, I think I heard, “Duh, Suz!  Home means come home to your Self.”  The Universe has a sense of humor!

What did it mean?  Start doing things differently.  Like what?  (I was full of questions but unaware that I was full of the answers, too, if I would only listen.)

At first, I felt stuck.  I heard that “when one door closes, another opens.”  But, I didn’t see any open doors, sun-filled windows, or light through a keyhole beckoning me.  I was facing the wrong direction.  I was focused on what I didn’t want and what wasn’t working.

The Choice

There were two choices- stand still and stay stuck or take a step.  It sounds a bit flippant and oh-so easy but it’s not.  It takes a lot of courage to take the first step in the direction you want to go.  You don’t have to run or even walk… just take one small step and it will guide the next step.

“Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life. 

Tiptoe if you must, but… take the step!” 

Naeem Calaway

Journey of Love

I realized that coming home to my Self is a Journey of Love.  Whoa, hold on just a minute!  Isn’t it selfish to put my Self first?  Absolutely not!  How can I offer anyone else a drink from an empty cup?  I had to fill my chalice first.  I had to be “Self-Full”.  Keep in mind, I said this is a “journey”, not a destination.  It meant reprioritizing.  Making space.  Saying “No thank you” to things I didn’t want to do.  Taking care of my body, mind, and spirit.  Having fun.  Reconnecting with people I love.  Doing less so I could be more present.  It meant loving, accepting, and respecting myself.  It meant having the courage to be authentic… and visible.

Home Means…

  • I choose Love over fear.
  • I express gratitude for all the treasures in my life.
  • I focus on what I want with greater clarity and intention.
  • I use my creativity as a portal to connect me to my inner wisdom (intuition, highest self…).
  • I allow my inner wisdom to guide my choices.
  • I follow “YES”.  Even if it’s a baby step, I take the step.
  • I release, with loving kindness, what no longer serves.
  • I connect to the Divine energy in all that is seen and unseen- the Divine within me, too.
  • I trust the Mystery- relinquishing the desire to control outcomes so the real magic can happen!
  • I accept myself for being human…a perfectly imperfect human being.

Come Home to Your Self is a Journey of Love… it begins with one brave step!

When we can love ourselves and have the confidence to show up authentically,

our example gives those around us permission to do the same.

My Calendar of Events lists upcoming workshops and retreats where I guide people on the journey back to Self through creativity, intuitive experiences, ceremony, visualizations, and more.